Okay, maybe it’s not as simple as that?
If something bad happens, it is very unlikely that we wouldn’t have a reaction. In fact those reactions can save our lives, like picking up a hot potato.
But we don’t need long to get the message. A moment is enough.
So why do we linger in those bad reactions on other occasions? We’ve got the message and staying in that bad place does not serve us well.
How can we change this behaviour?
If you find yourself reacting negatively for more than the few informative seconds you need, say “yeah, yeah, okay I’ve got it” to your brain and tell it to get out of your way!
The challenges we face are like hot potatoes. Don’t hold onto negative reactions for any longer than you have to get the message.